6 Steps To Control Your Emotions Around Women

Do you sometimes have trouble controlling your emotional responses to women? You know, a woman rejects you or says something that makes you feel bad, and you either shut down emotionally or start getting nervous?

If so, you might think that you are doing a pretty good job of hiding it from her. But guess again…Have you ever been able to read an emotional response in someone even though they were trying to hide it? If so, take that memory and magnify it by a factor of 10….that’s how much more intuitive women are than we are.

Considering this, don’t you think it might be a good idea to have control of your emotional responses around women? If you’ve ever had that mysterious moment where all the momentum seemed to die suddenly in your interactions with women, most likely it’s because you don’t have that control.

So what can you do about it?

Here are 6 steps you can take that will help you control your emotions around women.

Here is what I mean by getting rejected intelligently, it means that you have a game plan when you go out but at the same time putting yourself in high pressure situations and taking risks.

High pressure situations would be approaching a girl in the middle of her group while ignoring her friends, approaching a couple on the dance floor, a couple making out, going for isolation and for the make out.

When you do those things you will inevitable fail but while failing you start to become immune to rejection. It won’t faze you and once you get the point where you truly don’t care about rejection then you are going to be a lady killer in every sense.

Rejection makes your boundary stronger that is why when you get rejected it doesn’t phase. Now keep in mind that you want to do your best to succeed but pushing your comfort will get you rejected but that rejection will make you emotional strong. Emotional strength is what you need to succeed with women long term.

2. Setting Boundaries. Having the ability to say NO to women is huge when it comes to controlling your emotions around them. Saying no builds strong boundaries and strong boundaries build your emotional strength. Have you ever said yes to a woman when you really wanted to say no? How did you feel after you did that?

I’m going to say that you were upset or frustrated with yourself and even started to have resentment towards that woman even though you were the one that had the weak boundary LOL. Not setting boundaries make you feel like crap before and after.

However when you set boundaries and you have certain behavior that you will and won’t tolerate from women you feel good before and after you set that boundary thus giving you more control over your emotions.

3. Journaling. This is an excellent way to get control over your emotions. Journaling builds something called observing ego which gives you the ability to observe yourself in real time. When you can observe yourself in real time you have control over your emotions.

Here is how I recommend that you journal in order to improve with women. After you come home from meeting women I want you to write down 3 things you did well and 3 things you can improve.

When you do that you will start to see the mistakes you make while going out and meeting women and you will start to be able to correct them.

The next time you go out you will be able to catch yourself in the moment making your mistakes and correct them on the spot (observing ego). This will give you much more control over your emotions.

4.Affirmations. Having positive affirmations that you read or listen to daily will help make you stronger mentally thus helping you have control over your emotions. When you go out and meet women you are going to have rough patches.

Staying positive no matter what is very important when it comes to cold approaching women and for your long term success with women. If you read or listen to your affirmations consistently they will become ingrained into your mind.

When negative thoughts come to your mind because you have been listening to those affirmations consistently they will quickly leave your mind as your positive affirmations have become your new reality.

I like to write my affirmations in two ways; process and skilled based. Here is what I mean. Instead of writing affirmations in a delusional way like this, “I am a ladies man.” I would write it in this way, “I’m in the process of becoming a ladies man.”

That is much more realistic and your subconscious mind is much more likely to accept that. There is a great book law of attraction book by Michael J. Losier which is the best and most practical book I have read on the law of attraction.

5.Meditation. The practice of mediation will teach you how to calm your mind and its thoughts. It will teach you how to be calm no matter what is going on around you. Your thoughts have an impact on your emotions so when you learn how to calm your thoughts you will have control over your emotions.

The best meditation app that I use and highly recommend is called Headspace. They have a free portion of the app that will get you started. Download it and get rolling.

6.Find Your Path. You must have something more important in your life then women. Finding and staying on your path is the most important thing in your life. I like what David Deida says in his book The Way Of The Superior Man, “Your mission must be more important than your woman.”

The number one mistake I see men make is they make a woman their entire world and then when the relationship ends their entire world implodes. You never want to do because despite what women say they don’t want a man who makes them their everything.

Yes they want to feel they are important and special but no woman wants a man who has nothing going on besides her. It’s just not attractive nor will it be fulfilling for you as a man. When things aren’t going well with the ladies or you and your woman are going through a rough patch you will have your mission to redirect that energy towards.

You will have the focus that you need to succeed on your path. If you don’t know your path, figure it out. Maybe it’s real estate, programming, teaching, public speaking, writing, etc. Find out what you are passionate about and what the market has a need for so that you can make money on your path.

This will be very fulfilling and you won’t need a woman to make you full you will already come to the table full a woman will just be dessert.

Bonus Emotional Skills

1. Improv Comedy. The ability to improvise will help you develop observing ego very quickly. Most people I have recommended improv comedy classes to start to see results after 4 weeks. Sign up for a class ASAP and you will understand what I mean.

2.Diet And Exercise. This will improve your mood 100 fold. Being in physical shape will give you the stamina to go out there and cold approach women. With the rejection you will face you to have the energy to withstand it all and diet and exercise will do this for you. Join a gym, crossfit, get a trainer, etc. Do what you need to in order to get your physical fitness in order.

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